I’m Not Starting Over. I’m Starting From Here.

 

There’s a difference between starting over and starting from here.

Starting over can feel like erasing everything that came before it. Like the past was a mistake. Like you missed something and now you’re behind. But starting from here honors the journey. It says, this version of me didn’t appear out of nowhere. She was formed.

This season of my life isn’t about pretending I don’t know what I know now. It’s about choosing to move forward with more clarity, more compassion for myself, and a deeper trust in God’s timing. I’ve learned that growth doesn’t always look like a big, visible shift. Sometimes it looks like a quieter yes. A softer pace. A more honest posture.

What I’m noticing lately is how easy it is to judge past versions of ourselves with present-day wisdom. But God was present then too. Teaching. Covering. Carrying. Even when I didn’t recognize it in real time. I don’t need to disown who I was to become who I’m becoming. I can honor her and still evolve.

What God seems to be teaching me in this season is that becoming whole isn’t about fixing what’s broken as much as it is about integrating what’s been fragmented. Letting faith and wisdom sit in the same room. Letting rest be spiritual. Letting process be holy.

So I’m starting from here. With what I know. With what I have. With the grace that’s already been given to me. Not rushing the unfolding. Not shaming the in-between. Just choosing the next faithful step.

If you’re in a season where things are shifting and you feel the urge to label it as “starting over,” consider this a gentle reframe. You’re not behind. You’re becoming. And starting from here might be the most honest place you could begin.

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A Fresh Start, With Help

This post is me pressing reset. Not because anything was wrong — but because I’ve grown. This blog is starting again with a clearer voice, a deeper sense of purpose, and a rhythm that fits the season I’m in now. I’m no longer interested in writing just to post. I want this space to reflect who I am today — rooted in faith, shaped by experience, and committed to becoming whole. Part of this fresh start includes something new for me: intentionally using AI as a tool in my writing process. Not to replace my voice. Not to outsource my thinking. But to help me focus on what matters most. AI helps me organize ideas, reduce friction, and spend less time staring at a blank page. It gives structure so I can bring the spirit. Clarity so I can bring the conviction. It’s the assistant, not the author. I believe technology should serve the calling, not compete with it. When used wisely, it creates space — space to reflect, to pray, to live, and to write from a place that’s honest instead of hurried. So this blog begins again with intention. Faith and psychology. Leadership and life. Becoming in real time. Written by me, supported by tools, and grounded in purpose. Even the image you see here reflects that balance — creativity supported by technology, not replaced by it. If you’re curious about starting something again — or starting smarter — I hope you’ll find something here that resonates. Here we go. 🌱

Earthquake Kit Making Workshop

 

ARE YOU READY? 

The American Red Cross and the Rising Communities West Athens-Westmont Delegation will be hosting a 

DISASTER PREPAREDNESS KIT-MAKING WORKSHOP

and I will be your workshop facilitator!

SATURDAY NOVEMBER 2ND, 2024 10AM - 12PM

SUNNYSIDE BAPTIST CHURCH

9317 S BUDLONG AVE 

LOS ANGELES, CA 90044

TO PROMOTE SUSTAINABILITY YOU BRING THE BAG, WE'LL BRING THE SUPPLIES

Spanish Translation Available 

Raffle, Refreshments & Snacks  

Childcare Available 

#RisingCommunities #WestAthens #Westmont #LosAngeles #disasterpreparedness #disasterreadiness #redcross #redcrossvolunteer

The Balancing Act Webinar

What we’ll cover in this event...

Tackling Limiting Beliefs
Learn about limiting beliefs and how are they stopping you from manifesting your greatness.

Activating Your Network
Your network is greater and more divine then you realize. Learn how to tap in to help you reach your goals faster.

Maximize Your Time 
Spend less time spinning your wheels by using proven strategies to reach your goals more effectively

And more...

TICKETS FOR THIS EVENT 

ARE NO LONGER AVAILABLE

Plan to Maximize 2019!

When people find out all of the things that I do (being a single mom,working a nine-to-five having a successful business, getting my Ph.D), they often asked how I get it all done. One of the keys to my success is planning. Many years ago my Life Coach, Stephanie Alva, said something in one of my sessions that stuck with me. She said "If it isn’t on your calendar, it won’t happen." This became true for me for not just scheduling events, but also setting goals, and manifesting. My motto has become "Write it down and make it happen."

I recently did a video where I showed you my favorite planner, the Passion Planner, and how I will be planning my 2019. 

There are tons of planners, calendars and journals out there. If you are interested in printing or purchasing your own , click the link to receive 10% off coupon to use toward your first purchase of $30 or more.  Also, the Hustle cover is still available through Amazon. You can also get the paper punch and expander disks through Amazon.com. Danielle LePorte, author of Desire Map, also offers a Desire Map Planner with awesome soul searching prompt is designed to help you plan your day with more intention and soul. My friend, Melissa Vernon of Marketing with Mel, uses the Momentum Planner. It allows you to break goals up into daily, weekly, quarterly, and monthly action items. 

Maximizing 2019 begins with establishing a plan for the year. Figure out which planner, calendar or journal method works best for you and begin planning your success.   

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Forgiveness ~ Stop Waiting For An Apology

Today, my prayer was focussed specifically on forgiveness. As I prayed, I acknowledged to God that a person never apologized to me. This is what I felt in my spirit...  

Stop waiting for an apology. Forgiveness does not require an apology from the person who has offended or hurt you. Forgiveness is an internal process. It starts and ends within you. 

Sometimes the apology you hear is merely a form of manipulation. The person is telling you they are sorry just to tell you what you want to hear. It is only to pacify you. They aren’t really apologetic for what they've done. They are just doing what they feel they need to do to get themselves back into their "position" in your life. They are using the words they believe you want to hear to manipulate you.

A verbal apology does not necessarily mean the person regrets their action. Words and action must match to make an apology meaningful. With or without these words, you can begin the process of healing and forgiveness. Forgiveness is not really for that person anyway.

Yes, it may feel good when we apologize to someone and they accept our apologies. But when you are the person who has been offended, forgiveness does not have to begin when the apology is received. You don't have to wait for it. You can begin forgiveness today. And I say begin today, because forgiveness is a process. The feelings you have of anger and or resentment may come up again. And when they do you forgive again. 

Forgiveness does not mean the person gets to reclaim the space they held in your life before. Sometimes forgiveness can come with standards and boundaries. Meaning in my heart,you no longer hold what that person has done against them. However, they no longer have the same position they had in your life before the issue. You make a conscious decision to love that person from a distance. 

This is especially true for abusive and toxic relationships. It is absolutely okay to forgive and walk away. You do not have to put yourself back in the position to be hurt again physically or emotionally. However, what you do have to do is release those feelings of anger and resentment in your heart. The only person it's really hurting is you. 

Let It Go. Release the baggage and watch how high are you sore without that burden weighing you down.

After prayer & writing, I made myself a cup of Yogi Sweet Tangerine Positive Energy Tea and this message was attached to my tea bag. 

"People who love are forgiving."

#Yogi #Tea #Ministry #YogiTeaMinistry

Written 6/24/18

Vlogmas Day 7 | Host: Dr. Qui

Dr. Qui's last day of Vlogmas. Dr. Qui and Sisi show you they're Friday night dinner. Dr. Qui answers the question from the bowl "Why do you do what you do?"